I’ve been brewing this post for the past couple of months – but typically for this time of year, there’s been so much jostling for my attention (work, family stuff, gardening, exercising and more) that the actual writing has had to wait until a sleepless night got me out of bed very early.
So, what’s been brewing? Well, it’s been thinking about love, relationships, the highs and the lows. Our love life, or lack of it, or disappointment and disillusionment with it, occupy a big part of our inner and outer world – and recent months in my practice have been particularly full of relationship stories.
I’ve had acupuncture patients and Zero Balancing clients in the full flush of new love, with its excitement and rush of blood to the head and heart. I’ve had people in shock, grief and despair at the sudden and unexpected end of love affairs. A couple of childhood abuse survivors have faced huge challenges as old wounds have been triggered in new relationships. Others have found that they’ve been able to shed some of the shackles of entrenched relationship ‘issues’ and have started to explore trust with courage.
Acupuncture teaching focuses on the Heart energy when considering love, openness, communication, the ability to keep panic at bay and the ability to trust. And the summer time is one of the most potent times to give that aspect of our functioning fine-tuned support. Zero Balancing can have an extraordinarily empowering effect on our ability to navigate through periods of change, shock and trauma. A colleague told me recently that a friend of hers had dramatically left her alcoholic husband after decades of marriage and turned up at her doorstep in a terrible state – while receiving a timely Zero Balancing session, she found herself saying that she could see how her life could unfold now in a much more healthy way. Shock, trauma and chaos were transforming into something altogether more constructive and helpful – and all without a word being spoken.
There are no short-cuts for healing a broken heart, for learning to trust, for taking the plunge, for shedding vulnerability – but there’s one thing I do know. Doing it alone is tough, leaning on someone really does lighten the load and give a different perspective on things. And at times when you may not want to rely too much on family and friends, because they worry too much or might become overwhelmed or bored with your troubles, seeking help from a skilled, interested and caring therapist can be hugely valuable.
If you’re in trouble or distress over a relationship issue right now, I would love to offer you support. Call me now on 07970 295177.