All experts on how best to manage a website say that it’s important to write a blog post at least once a month. It makes your site, and what you’re using it for, look current, alive, up-to-the-minute, fresh, cared-for, vibrant … I could go on. And I’m sure that all that is very true, and I would hate to think that my site looked stuck in some retro time-warp.
Having said that, I will hold up my hands and confess that, since the end of last year when I last wrote a post, I’ve been rather too occupied with living a real life to attend assiduously to my virtual realm. While the months in this new year have been galloping ahead at an exceptional pace, so too have the known ‘knowns’ in my life – and there has been rather a glut of previously unknown and unexpected new ‘knowns’ cropping up and having to be processed – rather like the necessary rush of action required when the vegetable garden produces twenty courgettes ready for use all on the same morning. Everything else has to be put on hold while the raw materials get satisfyingly transformed into something delicious and storable for enjoyment and use over an extended time. No apologies for the vegetable analogy – regular readers of this blog will know that this therapist is a market gardener in minimal disguise. There will doubtless be harvesting blogs to come. Why change a pattern that works, eh?
So, as all these unexpected things have been unfolding in my life, my mind has been pondering on how my experiences reflect a more generally held set of truths – some of them quite straight-forward and ‘everyday’, others of a more foundation-rocking nature. You see, I am so fascinated by how we all somehow manage to navigate through life’s ripples, waves, tsunamis even – that even when I’m in the middle of major upheavals I can’t help but sense how my experiences may serve me to understand you, my clients or potential clients, more fully. More compassionately. More patiently. And goodness know, we can all do with compassionate patience applied to us – can we not?
Today’s blog post is dedicated to a special newcomer in my life, and his name is Hector. He is dark and handsome, sometimes patient, always kindly-disposed towards me, often infectiously enthusiastic. And until last autumn, I would have categorically said to all and sundry that Hector was not my type, not someone with whom I would have passed the time of day, not someone I would have chosen to invest any time or effort over. But then my life shifted on its axis, and some higher force threw down a gauntlet for me to pick up if I dared – on the gauntlet was written “CHANGE” and change I did. For I fell in love with Hector. Did it mean that I was being untrue to myself? Did it mean that my previous principles, beliefs, values had been suspect? Or worse, had they been good and I was now being disloyal to them? NO, NO, NO! Because, dear reader, with compassion, with patience, I came to understand a profound and unavoidable truth. That the nature of life, of our existence, IS change. And that to resist change, to try to cling on to the status quo, is not only exhausting and debilitating, but is ultimately doomed to failure. We are, here and now, that flawed and magnificent result of all we have known, experienced, held dear, loved and lost – and that, if only we can learn how to pivot elegantly and with good grace upon our own axis, we can stay true to our deepest and highest self while apparently being quite quite unrecognisable.
So, thank you darling Hector for showing me that at least one dog is worth losing your heart for – and thank you to the many cherished cats I have loved before.
With the dramatic rush of spring suddenly lurching into summer all around us, let us step bravely into unexpected and surprising futures – to help me on my way, I had a Zero Balancing session last week and I’m booked in for an acupuncture treatment in a few days’ time. Getting help and support makes such a difference.
So why not do just that yourself. Call me on 07970 295177 to book an appointment. The time for change is now!